Successful Open Relationships in Polyamory – free webinar!

For those who don’t know her, Sumati Sparks is a California-based open relationship coach,  sex-positive advocate, and cofounder of Feminine Prosperity.  Her most ambitious project to date is her Polyamory Summit, entitled Successful Open Relationships & Polyamory; she conducted video interviews with over a dozen poly leaders, advocates, authors and experts, and shares their knowledge with viewers for free!  This mini-vidcast series targets the best practices of thought leaders in the field, and anyone interested in polyamory should definitely tune in – and not just because one of us got interviewed.  🙂

Click here for Sumati Sparks’ Poly Summit – launching February 2019!

TONIGHT! Dr. Zhana Presents: Monogamy – is it for everyone?

(For those of you who can’t make it, the spoiler answer is: “No. But neither is nonmonogamy.”)

Curious? Confused? Check it out for yourself tonight if you’re in NYC, Feb 12, at 7pm:

Dr Zhana is one of the world’s foremost researchers on human sexuality, and a professor on the topic at NYU. She’s also currently running the world’s largest survey on female ejaculation a.k.a. squirting:  click on to participate!

Inclusion At Work – Thursday March 7!

Atlantic – Inclusion At Work

The Atlantic has become a leader in raising and discussing relevant workplace topics in a professional manner; Thursday morning March 7 from 9 AM to noon they are presenting a highly accomplished panel on inclusion within corporate America. Light refreshments are usually served.

If you are interested in attending *for free*, click the link above to register!

Event details, below.


In the last few years, many companies have vowed to diversify their workforces and their leadership. The goal: build businesses that look more like America.

And yet, the numbers tell us a familiar story: C-Suites are increasingly dominated by white men. How can companies foster real inclusion if they lack it at the top?

The Atlantic will gather leaders from across industries to explore why the push to diversify has yet to reap results. What new strategies have worked? And what kinds of fundamental change must happen for real, lasting inclusion?

Second Monday – community events

New York-based Open Love NY ( sponsors several polyamory events every month, the largest of which is Poly Cocktails (168.5 Delancey St rooftop) with upward of 100 attendees every second Monday.

There is a poly dim sum meetup beforehand at King’s Co Imperial, downstairs at the same address, from 6:45-8:15. Join veteran and newbie poly peeps for casual conversation over a prix-fixe meal ($21) in a beautiful setting before heading over to Poly Cocktails.

Sex positivity and sex education: Netherlands vs US

In the Netherlands, children as young as four are taught to normalize their bodies and curiosities, having questions answered and being educated about anatomy and adult interactions. In America, sex ed is rarely mandatory or comprehensive, schools teach abstinence-only programs, and provide almost no training on safe sex. The result? America has four times as many teen pregnancies, drastically higher STI rates, and way too many adults who are clueless about even basic sexual understandings. There are better ways to address America’s sexual health – we should start by acknowledging sex education is healthy.

Another Poly First: Three Parents on a Birth Certificate

This month in Canada, our neighbors to the North (after the last election cycle, the suddenly super-appealing side of the tracks): a Newfoundland judge has officially recognized all three adults as legal parents of a child born to a polyamorous triad, overturning a lower court ruling stating no more than two parents could be listed on a birth certificate.

Despite none of the triad being married, the judge wrote the child “has been born into what is believed to be a stable and loving family relationship which, although outside the traditional family model, provides a safe and nurturing environment. I can find nothing to disparage that relationship from the best interests of the child’s point of view. To deny this child the [multiple] paternal parentage would not be in his best interests. It must be remembered that this is about the best interests of the child and not the best interest of the parents.”

Mostly Straight Men: Vastly Underreported?

A great article by a sex researcher on that underrated-but-obvious-when-you-think-about-it cohort of men who identify as “mostly straight” rather than straight, gay, or bi. I have personally identified as mostly-straight for years, despite the entire extent of my guy-on-guy action being a friendly but tingly mouth kiss from a bisexual friend (felt nice but the stubble threw me off a bit). The more experience you get, the more you realize gendered attraction is a spectrum, and there’s no such thing as an on/off switch for desire. In other words: just because I haven’t gotten down with guys yet doesn’t mean I won’t ever want to.

Amazing TED Talk on gender identity by a trans speaker

Paula Stone Williams’ TED Talk, more effectively than any I have ever seen, relates in a meaningful way why men don’t recognize their privilege, how women have to work twice as hard for half the respect, the importance of living authentically, and how drastically and surprisingly social capital changes when a man becomes a woman. So many wonderful lessons to be learned here.

Sex on a first date?

I’ve always said sex is a red herring. Rather than signify love, or a bonding experience, or a mutual commitment, or a stepping stone to a long-term relationship, the true significance of sex is only – and exactly – what the people having it decide it is. The real question is whether the people involved are truly on the same page in what it means to THEM.

So if you want to have sex on a first date – or any other time – do it. Just be honest with yourself and your partners while you’re doing it, and make sure they’re being honest with you.