Poly Wanna Answer?

How soon can you tell someone you love them?

How soon can you tell someone you love them? I don't think you can love someone if you don't know ...
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Defining Polyamory

Dear PWA columnists: I'm in a polycule in New York and we realized we mostly all have different ideas about ...
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Telling Tweens, Or Just For Adults?

Dear PWA experts: I've only recently learned about polyamory, and while it feels like it could be right for me ...
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Aversion to Compersion?

Dear PWA: My boyfriend has told me he is deeply in love with me and wants to be with ...
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The game of mono-poly

Hello lovely bloggers, I’m in a difficult place right now with my emotionally-closest partner. We’ve been in an ethical, mutually-open ...
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Female privilege?

Hey guys, My boyfriend of 3 years and I recently decided to start seeing other people. I should explain that ...
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New girlfriend rattles nervous wife

Hello, My husband and I just started our open marriage. We’ve been discussing an open relationship for awhile now. Well, ...
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Couple wants to call the “Poly Police” on friend’s cheating behavior

Dear PWA: I have an important question and would like to ask it anonymously. I am in an open marriage, ...
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Open relationship threatened by desperate wife

Hello. I have been looking for somewhere/someone to talk to and get advice/input on my situation. I’ve been in a ...
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Which direction should this relationship swing?

My wife and I have enjoyed swinging as a couple for years, and we decided to look into opening our ...
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How can I feel compersion for someone I used to know?

Hi there Mischa and Leon, I have a partner. He’s married. His wife is wonderful. I’m in a relationship with ...
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I love two women – how do I stop lying to them?

Hello, I hope you guys could give me some insight. I’ll try and make this as short and sweet as ...
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I hate my married partner’s new girlfriend!

Hi,

I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years with a married woman. I am surprisingly comfortable being in this ...
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Can this relationship be saved?

Dear Leon and Mischa,

So here’s the situation – me and the man I love have been at each other’s throats ...
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Newbie drowning in “Hunger Games” dating pool

Dear Mischa and Leon, OK, so – help. I’ll spare you the intricate details, at least for the moment, and ...
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How do I convince my girlfriend to be polyamorous?

Hi Mischa and Leon,

I’m just looking for a bit of advice. Basically I’ve been with this girl for over a ...
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Cheating wife wants more from marriage

Hello there,

In the last three months, I’ve been cheating on my husband (more consistently) with an old flame from over ...
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Reader ‘alarmed’ by partners sharing emails

Hi,
I am extremely new to the poly scene and am still learning community ‘norms.’ In relation to that, I ...
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What sex restrictions are reasonable and when?

Hello,

Growing up I wanted monogamy because anything else was “not real love”. I didn’t want anything that wasn’t authentic ...
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How to deal with negative feelings

Hello,
I saw your website and am hoping you can help. My partner and I have been monogamously together for 6 ...
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Communication with partners’ partners… how much is enough?

I’ve got a poly situation and could use your “professional” advice – thanks for writing this column! It’s been really ...
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Objectification at a sex party

Leon and Mischa, 

I know that a polyamorous person is able to have multiple partners, including sexual partners, and it’s not ...
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Poly medical insurance shortcomings – and how you can help

Dear Mischa and Leon,

I have a strange question for you… What are the poly community’s thoughts on medical insurance? I ...
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Poly people vs Swingers = Montagues and Capulets?

Greetings. So, the deal is that am very honest and up front about who my wife and I are when ...
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Kinky conversations aren’t for everyone

Hello! I live in NYC and the organized poly events here always seem to be advertised to and heavily attended ...
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Should I let my partner read my emails?

Hello there, I am new to the poly world and consider myself an enthusiast at this point.  Still doing a ...
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Agreeable Relationship Agreements

Hello Friends, I’m looking for a list of questions that my partner and I can ask ourselves in trying to ...
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Poly-saturation?

Hi! First off, I’d like to thank you on running a great blog. I’m pretty new to polyamory and having ...
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And the bad timing award goes to…

Mischa and Leon- First of all, THANK YOU for creating a place where people in all phases of discovering their ...
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Kink Beware

Lately I have noticed a very big influx of kink into the poly community. I’m not against kink, but I ...
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Open relationships vs. polyamory

What’s the difference between an open relationship, and a poly one? We start our advice column with a question that ...
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This “he-said/she-said” advice column for the polyamorous community has been run by Leon Feingold and a co-author since its inception in 2011. It is currently co-hosted by sex-positive advocate Lee Hencen.

Leon Feingold has discussed polyamory as a guest on The View, Huffington Post, PolyInTheMedia, JezebelThe Atlantic, Quartz and others, plus a featured spot in the HBO movie Americans in Bed. In May 2014 he helped launch New York’s first openly polyamorous residence as its spokesperson, broker, and attorney. He gave a TED Talk on polyamory at TEDxBushwick on March 21, 2015, and was invited to present alongside Dr. Zhana Vrangalova and Christopher Ryan at South by Southwest 2018.

Lee Hencen has been poly for a long time with poly experiences of being married, single, part of a triad and currently in a domesticating partner relationship in Brooklyn.  She practices a family style of polyamory which includes long distance relationships, one more than 15 years.  A retired RN, Lee has presented various workshops at Poly Living Philly and Denver, Beyond the Love, Loving More Easy Coast Retreat, Eastern Naturist Gathering, Deepening Connections for B-More Poly and Building Bridges.